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“You can take no credit for beauty at sixteen.  But if you are beautiful at sixty, it will be your soul’s own doing.” 

~Marie Stopes

I read this quote and it really got me thinking about youthful beauty compared to that of later years.

I see beautiful older women who radiate loveliness from the inside out. I want to look like that when I’m 60. My Aunt Robbie is one of those who just gets more beautiful with age, and she is almost 80! I used to think beautiful old people just happened, like some magical transformation.  I now know better.

When I was 16, I thought I was homely, fat and about as far from beautiful as a girl could get. What I wouldn’t give now to look as I did at 16! That was before chicken pox scars, before too many recipes made with butter, before (gulp) middle age started settling in.

Why didn’t anyone tell me how traumatic it was going to be to hit 40? Things you take for granted and have become completely used to just being have suddenly turned on you overnight. Gravity has become an enemy, every single thing you eat shows up not only on your scale, but also in the tone and texture of your skin, and wrinkles… oh, I won’t even get started on wrinkles. Or gray hair.

And for goodness sakes, why didn’t someone warn me about the need to be slathered in lotion a couple times of day in an effort to fight off the awful effects of aging skin? If I put on anymore at bedtime, I might slide right off the sheets.

I’ve come to the conclusion that being outwardly beautiful in middle age or older is a lot of hard work. You can’t just coast along hoping things will go well. You’ve got to dig trenches, arm yourself for battle and charge headlong into the war! It isn’t a fight for the weary or faint-hearted.

It takes fortitude!

It takes strength!

It takes patience!

Which is why I might just go sit a while and think about my game plan while eating some chocolate truffles. Maybe I’ll work on ways to enhance that inward beauty while I’m at it.

She Who Is Not Loving Her Wrinkles Today

 

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Saturday, I drove hours away to help pull off a surprise birthday party for my mom.

My dad and I had been planning it for weeks and were biting our nails in hopes the event would remain a surprise. Judging by the look on Mom’s face as Dad brought her into the room, our mission was successful.

About 80 people joined us to celebrate Mom’s 80th birthday (how ironic is that?). It was so awesome to see friends and family I haven’t seen in years and years.

I so appreciate everyone who came and helped make the party a big success. And those who helped keep the secret. And those who helped keep things running smoothly! You all are so appreciated!

 

The birthday girl with my dad.

 

Some of the family.

 

More guests...

 

The birthday cake, which I was glad to have the bakery make!

 

Flowers for the birthday girl.

 

I think one of my favorite photos I took was of my great-nephew Will holding my cousin's new little guy. There was just something about our baby holding a baby that made my heart melt in a puddle.

 

She Who Enjoyed This Party

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Saturday I was running around the house like a chicken about to lose it’s head with a long to-do list of things that had to get done. Captain Cavedweller, of course, was working so that left me to tackle all my self-inflicted projects on my own.

And as luck would have it, my blasted, expensive, completely stupid washing machine decided to have a melt-down when I had five loads of laundry that needed done sooner rather than later.

Poor Captain Cavedweller made  the mistake of calling me while he was eating lunch to see how my day was going. It may be a while before he does that again due to the earful he received about the world falling apart at home, at least in the laundry room.

“Just take everything to the laundromat,” he said.

Right.

Easy for him to say, because he wouldn’t have to go hang out there for days of his life while hovering around the icky machines waiting for the loads to finish.

Scrounging through every vehicle, junk drawer, couch cushion and CC’s secret stash of coins for pop machines, I came up with what I hoped would be enough quarters to get the job done, loaded the laundry and reluctantly drove to the laundromat. There was only one woman there with her two little boys, so I quickly loaded up machines and got things rolling. I was dumping in the last load when I realized I was one quarter short.

Really? One quarter?

I’d already dug under the car seats, riffled through the jockey box and dumped out my wallet. And of course, there weren’t any machines that worked to convert dollar bills to quarters because in my search for change I had found two crisp dollar bills. Looking across the laundromat at the woman with a ziploc bag full of quarters, I decided to beg.

I offered to trade her a dollar bill for one quarter, thinking she’d jump on the opportunity. At this point, I would have gladly traded a $5 if I had one.

She might have gone for it if she could have spoken a word of English.

Through hand motions and, quiet possibly the look of sheer desperation on my face, she handed me four quarters. I think she may have been a bit frightened of the deranged woman who kept saying “I just need one quarter, please!” While frantically waving around a dollar bill.

She went and sat outside in her car while her clothes ran through their cycle. If I didn’t know better, I would think she was perhaps hiding out from me.

Once the laundry was done and loaded in my car, I ran back over and tried to give her the second dollar bill.

With a “thank you so much for the quarter,” I handed it to her. Finally she accepted looking somewhat unsure, but not quite as frightened, as she gave me a tremulous smile.

I don’t think she has any idea how much that quarter she let me have meant to me. But I hope that little smile means she might have an idea. And that she isn’t completely terrified of me.

She Who Terrifies Women and Children at the Laundromat

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If you ask me why, I couldn’t give you any good reason I’m feeling particularly nostalgic today.

But I am.

And then I ran across this photo and it made it worse.

My brother Kim is dressed up and ready to go somewhere (if  I have my facts straight, it was his high school graduation.) My brother Doug got stuck holding me and my sister Shelley looks happy for whatever adventure lies ahead.

I love this photo for a variety of reasons.

• It is one of the few photos in existence that shows me with my three siblings. Doug married a year later and started his own family.

• I was cute then (I outgrew that stage pretty quickly).

• My two brothers aren’t paying any attention to the camera because they are both looking at me like I might spontaneously combust at any given moment.

• My sister and I are both looking at someone. That someone probably being my mom who was obviously doing a good job of making me smile.

• When I tell people I was an accidental afterthought to my parents’ first three kids, this clearly illustrates my point. Not everyone brings home a newborn when you already have three kids  who are 19. 17 and 14.

• You have to love the 1970s processing that makes Doug and Kim look like Oompa Loompas while Shelley looks ghost-like.

Sometimes, taking a little walk down memory lane is a good thing.

She Who Loves Old Family Photos

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