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May all your troubles last as long as your New Year’s resolutions. 

~Joey Adams

I love this quote! How many New Year’s resolutions are forgotten by the time the last holiday sugar cookie is eaten or the December credit card bills arrive?

Instead of spouting unrealistic resolutions, try setting realistic goals for 2012.

Captain Cavedweller and I sit down on New Year’s Day and we each write a list of goals. I seal them in an envelope and put it away until New Year’s Eve. It is a lot of fun to open the envelope and see how many of those goals we achieved. Some are short term goals, some may take us all year, but there is a great sense of accomplishment when we can check them off and say “Yep, totally did that!”

The best way I know to set goals is to use the SMART goal method. Here is how it works:

 SMART stands for Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic, Timely.

To get a specific goal, ask yourself the who, what, where, when and why questions. Who is involved? What do I want to accomplish? Where will this take place? When will it take place? Why do I want this to happen?

A goal that is measurable is one that can be tracked by progress.  When you measure progress, track results and meet deadlines, it spurs you on toward greater accomplishment. Ask yourself questions like “How many?” “How much?”  “How will I know the goal is accomplished?”

Attainable goals help you identify what is most important to you. Once you do that, you can figure out step by step how to make it happen. You will develop the attitude, skill and ability to reach that goal.  This part of goal setting requires planning. You need to think out each step of action you need to take to make the goal happen and the time frame in which you’d like to see the results. Even goals that are a stretch (ones that get you beyond your comfort zone) are attainable when you grow to reach them. If your goal is get out the door on time in the morning, what specific steps can you take to make sure it happens?

To be realistic, a goal must represent an end result you are willing and able to achieve . You can have a stretch goal that is up there in the stars and still have it be realistic. You are the only one who can decide how lofty your goal should be. Just make sure it represents progress. Some of the highest goals accomplished didn’t seem that difficult because they were a labor of love or evolved from a deep passion. If you honest-to-goodness believe your goal can be accomplished, then it is probably realistic. You can also determine if a goal is realistic by looking at past accomplishments or determining what conditions or factors need to exist for the goal to be realized.

A goal is timely when it is tied to a time frame and has a sense of urgency. The steps leading to the accomplishment of your goal will also be time-based.

So let’s look at a goal. You might set a goal  that states   “I will lose weight this year!”

While that is a good start, when you make it SMART, you make it doable and provide the basis to hold yourself accountable.

“I will lose 50 pounds by 5 p.m. Dec. 20, 2012″ is a SMART goal.

Anyone could show up at 5 p.m. Dec. 20, 2012 and see if you have lost the weight.

This is where you will also create your action steps. You might write down something like:

“To achieve this goal I will …

• Exercise for 45 minutes Monday through Friday between 6 and 7 a.m.

• Eat balanced meals with plenty of fruits and vegetables, consuming no more than 1,800 calories a day.

• Drink 64 ounces of water every day.

• Check in weekly with Susie and Jane to h0ld me accountable to my goals…”

You get the idea.

When you share this goal with at least two other people, it will hold you accountable and help keep you on track.

The last part of the goal is setting a reward for yourself when you achieve it. Put it in writing and hold yourself to it. What realistic thing would you award yourself for meeting the goal? A pedicure? A new outfit? A spa day? Think of something that will give you some inspiration to keep going when you feel yourself dragging.

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I hope everyone had a fantastic Christmas with lots of good cheer, memorable moments and warm blessings.

Ours was very quiet and low key – finished off with some very tasty prime rib.

My True Love always gets me interesting gifts that I would never expect and this year was no exception.

In addition to a pink Browning pocket knife and pink binoculars (I asked if had had some outdoors survival experience planned for me and I got a blank look, so I’m taking that as a definite no which is a good thing. Me + Roughing it = Much Misery for all involved.) I received a Pink BB Gun.

I felt a bit like Ralphie with warnings not to shoot somebody’s eye out as we set up a target in the backyard and I fired away. I have to admit, it was a lot of fun to shoot and as soon as the weather cooperates, I will probably take it back out and see what damage I can do to our targets. I can’t wait for spring when I have dozens of pellets to pick up out of the yard!

On the opposite end of the gun/knife/outdoorsy spectrum, Captain Cavedweller gave me a watch.

Not just any watch.

But a decidedly feminine girly-girl watch that I absolutely love.

His gift-buying thought processes are more than this girl can follow. But I do think the watch is the perfect accessory to wear while I’m toting the rifle and wielding my knife!

She Who Loves Gifts from CC

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As a little girl who absolutely loved pretty dresses, I looked forward to the Christmas season with great anticipation. I always got a brand new dress for the Christmas program at school. Sometimes new shoes were needed as well, but always, always there was a new dress involved.

Sometimes my mom made my dresses and other times they were purchased, but I could hardly wait for the Christmas program to roll around. Not because Santa would be there handing out sacks of treats, but because I would get a pretty new dress.

I remember the dress I got for the first grade program was an icy blue affair with a double ruffle down the front from shoulders to waist and little embroidered flowers across the front. I played a bunny in the Christmas play and wore a little white rabbit hat along with my dress. Hopping across the stage was a bit of  a challenge in a dress, but that didn’t stop me from proudly wearing it.

One year I had a bright red dress with white lace on the front, another the dress was brown. Although, at that time, I thought the color brown was hideous, the dress was quite lovely in a soft, floral pattern, thick with cream lace.

My favorite dress of all time, though, looked like it came straight out of some Victorian holiday movie. It was cream with tiny pink roses all over it. A pink satin sash tied at the waist while froths of airy lace circled the neck and sleeves. I felt like a princess wearing that dress and was loathe to pass it on to my niece when I outgrew it.

Because of my great fondness for fancy holiday dresses, my two grand-nieces had dresses complete with crinolines, white stockings, and shiny Mary Janes  every year for Christmas up until just a couple years ago. The thirteen-year-old has outgrown such silliness and the nine-year-old tomboy much prefers her jeans and holiday sweaters to fancy dresses. My heart is still recovering from the agony of not getting to shop for fancy dresses during the holiday season, but I think I’ll survive.

Maybe I’ll shop for big-girl dresses instead.

I have a few favorite websites where I like to drool over the lovely gowns offered:

Mod Cloth

Coldwater Creek

Dillards

She Who Needs a Reason for a New Dress

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If you are still looking for a few last minute gifts for the men in your life, here are a few ideas.

These ideas, of course, are for your outdoorsy, non-techie, manly men guys who are impossible to shop for.

Not that I have anyone like that living in my house. Nope. Not at all.

These boots, by Polo Ralph Lauren , are warm, comfortable and rugged. They have just a hint of fashion edge to them, which is the reason I was completely shocked when Captain Cavedweller not only wore them, but liked them. Edgy fashion is usually not something you would associate with mister T-shirts and lace-up boots. You can find these online at Macy’s.

Speaking of T-shirts, I buy all Captain Cavedweller’s from Duluth Trading. They have these wonderful Longtail T-shirts that are cut extra long, so active guys don’t have to worry about exposing parts of their anatomy when they bend over. Duluth has some great stuff for guys – and gals.

Most of the guys in my family really like jerky. Captain Cavedweller always has a stash on hand and Jeff Foxworthy’s brand is one of his favorites. You can pick up jerky every where from the gas station to stores like Bass Pro Shops. Makes a great stocking stuffer!

The men in my world seem to have gone mad for Airsoft guns. These imitation firearms shoot non-metallic pellets (similar to a BB gun). Maybe they are all having Ralphie flashbacks to their longing for a Red Rider BB Gun. Whatever the case, Crosman has a great selection from rifles to pistols.

Captain Cavedweller likes knives. He generally loses his pocket knife at least once a year and a favorite knife manufacturer of his is Buck. They have a great selection of everything from hunting knives to every day pocket knives. They even have pink ones for the outdoorsy girls (not that I would notice these things).

Coats are also high on Captain Cavedwellers like-a-lot list. The more outdoorsy and rugged they are, the better he likes them. I’ve never gone wrong getting him something from Filson. They have a great selection of coats, vests, hats and assorted and sundry outdoorsy guy stuff.

Last, but not least, are gift cards. If you can’t think of anything else to give, go for a gift card to a manly-man store. Captain Cavedweller gets quite excited over Cabela’s gift cards.

Have fun shopping for the men in your life!

She Who Is Glad to Be Done Shopping for CC

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