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Flipping through my latest issue of Family Circle, I came across this page and stared at it for a few thoughtful moments.

The colors here are exactly the colors that make me think of Easter and spring – and Kat, my best friend during college.

One beautiful spring day our senior year, I put together an outfit that I thought screamed spring and headed off to classes.  My robin’s egg blue pencil skirt, pale pink top and cream sweater with little pink, lavender and blue flowers was cheery and girly and perfect for the season. Or so I thought.

Meeting up in the student union for a quick lunch, Kat took one look at me and shook her head. “You look like you were mauled by an Easter Parade. What are you doing?”

Needless to say, I never wore that particular wardrobe combination again.

But the colors still speak to me of springtime, of Easter baskets and dyed eggs, little chicks and pretty flowers.

She Who Loves the Colors of Spring Even if She Doesn’t Wear Them All at Once Anymore

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About a year and a half ago, Captain Cavedweller and I started talking about getting a new vehicle.

We knew my old red pickup (purchased brand new in 1992) was in dire need of retirement, although it still ran well and served its purpose of being a second vehicle.

Bracing ourselves for the experience of car shopping, we put that on hold when we found out we had to have our entire septic system replaced. Seven months later, we’d spent roughly the same amount if not more on the septic system than we would have on a new vehicle. Watching them bury all the septic equipment was like watching our dreams for a new car being buried in the wasteland that has become our backyard.

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Then just a month after the septic drama ended, our poor Red Pickup met an untimely death at the hands of a texting teen driving a tractor.

We limped along short one vehicle for a few months trying to decide if we wanted to buy a brand new vehicle and retire my car to second vehicle status or if we wanted to buy something used to replace the red pickup.

When my folks moved to town from the farm just before Christmas, it just so happened Dad decided he had one too many vehicles and wanted to sell his pickup. We jumped at the opportunity to buy it as a replacement for old red (and actually, it turned out to be quite a nice upgrade!).

Then, as my car rolled over 130,000 miles a few weeks ago, we decided we really needed (okay – wanted) to get a new vehicle.

Mentally prepared to deal with car salesmen, we visited a variety of lots, checking out a number of vehicles. Most could quickly be eliminated as soon as CC sat in the driver’s seat. If his head brushed the roof, his shoulders didn’t fit in the seat or the steering column bumped his knees – it was off the list.

Finally, we narrowed it down to a handful we wanted to test drive. Two of the car salesmen made fun of us for not having smart phones (not a great way to make me want to spend thousands of dollars with you, by the way).  One car salesman seemed terrified of CC and would only talk to me (again, not good for gaining our business) while another talked to CC like I wasn’t there. There were also the annoying salesmen who lied to us, stalked us on the phone and the final straw that broke the camel’s back was the one who was so rude, I would never, ever do business with him.

By this time, we had decided what vehicle we wanted, just not where to get it. I went online and did my research which resulted in finding exactly the model we wanted just four hours drive away – at a price none of the other dealers could match.

So we made the drive, worked with a salesman who was both courteous and professional (can you believe it?) and had a great experience trading in my car to bring home our new Jeep Compass.

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Since we had to drive home through a snow storm, we got to test out a lot of the great features on the rig, although I have to admit my favorite were the seat warmers!

She Who is Loving the New Jeep

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Apparently, it must be National Be Mean to Old People Week.

Why didn’t someone warn me? How did I miss this memo?

After writing Monday about people treating the elderly disrespectfully, Captain Cavedweller and I arrived home last night to find a frantic message from his grandmother followed by a cryptic message from his mother which ended in “call me when you get home.”

CC called his mom to discover some scammer called his grandmother, pretending to be “her oldest grandson.”

When Grandma asked him what his name was, he couldn’t remember.

When she asked him why he sounded funny, he said he had a cold. (CC talks to his Grandma enough she’d recognize his voice if he had a cold – or was trying to holler into a windstorm.)

Not being the easy mark the scammer thought she’d be, he tried to play up a whole sob story about being in jail in Mexico and needing her to bail him out.

Since CC has never been in trouble with the law and never been to Mexico, both statements sounded fishy to Grandma.

So she hung up, called us, then called CC’s mom.

My most wonderful mother-in-law assured Grandma that if any of us were in jail in Mexico, she’d be the last person we’d call. (Not sure that helped Grandma’s ego at that point, but it was kind of funny.) Grandma was just glad for the assurance that CC had not completely changed his personality and turned to a life of crime and debauchery. We’re glad to know if something ever did happen and we needed her help, Grandma has got our back.

Anyway, to those who heard CC was in Mexico waiting for his grandma to bail him out – sorry to disappoint you. He was at work all day yesterday. I know that for a fact because we carpooled.

And to those of you who think it’s funny, cool, or clever to try and scam old people – knock it off. You obviously have creative skills that are not being put to good use.

Get a job.

Work for a living.

Be a contributing member of society instead of a trouble-making parasite.

She Who Has Had it With People Picking on the Elderly

 

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This weekend I had a front row seat to see how someone’s thoughtless, childish, rude behavior crushed two senior citizens.

Although I’ve known this for a while, you can get a perfectly clear picture about someone’s character from watching how they treat the elderly.

Just because a person’s skin is wrinkled, their vision has dimmed, and they no longer move with any speed, doesn’t mean they should be treated with less respect, care or kindness.

It also doesn’t mean they are stupid. Don’t assume just because someone is aged that their mind no longer functions.  A lot of them are as sharp as tacks, and those who assume otherwise are the ones I think aren’t hitting on all cylinders.

Getting old sucks.

Even if the mind is willing, the body is often lagging behind.  Things that used to come easily now are challenging and life seems to move both so fast and so slowly, making it difficult to keep up.

Despite their physical challenges, so many of the elderly have such great stories to tell, such wisdom to offer. Those who shun them or treat them disdainfully are hurting themselves the most because they are missing out on time spent with these walking time machines.

If you want to check out someone’s character, take them to a senior center or have them interact with a group of elderly. It will tell you more about them than hours spent in conversation.

Despite delusions that it won’t ever happen to us, we are all going to be old someday. It’s how things work.

I don’t know about you, but if that saying  “what goes around comes around” is true, I hope that those who are kind to the elderly now in their youth will receive similar treatment in their old age.

As for those of you who treat the elderly like something nasty stuck to your shoe – just remember there will be some self-centered, cruel person out there who will offer you the exact same treatment someday.

Be kind and patient with our senior citizens. Offer them encouragement and a helping hand. Ask them about their life. Engage them in meaningful conversation. You’ll be glad you did.

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